So, this is definitely something that needs to be said to a friend of mine. I suppose posting it on here will have to suffice for now.
As much as I would like to believe that you two would be good for each other, I’m beginning to see that that is just not the case. You don’t know what all of your constant flirting is doing to her. You will never be able to see how much this is really affecting her and the way she lives her life. The girl is in love with you, but you’re too childish and clueless to recognize it for what it is. You two would never work out. I understand this now, because the fact of the matter is, you need to grow up. You need to stop acting like a little boy who’s just interested in having fun and understand that girls have feelings. And toying with those feelings isn’t a good idea. It could land you in a whole mess of trouble and it could damage the girl for a long time.
Like I said to you before: if you like her ask her out; if you don’t, then stop doing this. It’s not fair to her and honestly, I can’t see how it’s helping you any. Maybe you think you’re being normal around her. Maybe you think this is just how you’re supposed to act. Whatever it is, I can assure you that it’s not healthy for her. Take it from someone who knows how a girl is wired. I know how girls work; you, obviously, do not.
If that’s not enough of a reason for you to listen to me, then maybe this will be. Take it from someone who has sat through the confusion, heartache and oftentimes pain that you have caused this girl. This is my best friend you’re messing with. Break her heart and I will spare no part of you in exacting my revenge.
If you don’t like her, move on so that she can do the same. You’re nothing more than a little boy who doesn’t really know what he wants. Until you figure that out, I’d try and reign in your flirting a little bit. I’m not saying you should give up talking to her; just stop making her think that there could be something more between the two of you, especially if you have no intention of pursuing anything further than friendship with her.
She is like a sister to me. Yes, we are that close. So, do yourself a favor and don’t hurt her. Be her friend, if that’s all you want to be. Give her a chance to move on from you, to see that there are other guys out there. If you want to be something more than friends though, then do something about it and stop messing around. Because you’re not just messing with a person; you’re messing with her heart, her emotions. And those are things that should never be toyed with.
